Big Dick Problems:
The Complete Guide Nobody Talks About

For the 1-2% Actually Dealing With This
⚠️ 15 min read
Everyone thinks having a big dick is all upside. Browse r/bigdickproblems for five minutes and you'll see the reality: bleeding partners, $30 condoms, TSA pat-downs, toilet water, and wondering if she actually likes you or just your size. This is the comprehensive guide to problems that guys 7+ inches actually face - not humble brags, just real issues that nobody talks about.

The Numbers Nobody Mentions

1.5%
Men Over 7"
0.1%
Men Over 8"
73%
Partners Experience Pain
$180+
Annual Condom Cost

The Complete Problem List

1
Partner Pain & Injury
The biggest issue by far. Cervix punching, vaginal tearing, next-day soreness, bleeding. Having to stop mid-sex because she's in pain. Limiting positions. Never being able to go all the way in. Watching her wince. The guilt of hurting someone you care about.
Severity
2
Condom Nightmare
Regular condoms cut off circulation. Magnums are barely bigger. Actual large condoms (64mm+) aren't in stores. Ordering MyONE custom. Paying 3x more. Red ring of death. Lost erections from constriction. Breaking condoms. Partners insisting you don't need bigger ones.
Severity
3
Quickies Don't Exist
Need 20+ minutes of foreplay minimum. Lube is mandatory, not optional. Spontaneous sex is impossible. Morning sex requires preparation. Have to warm her up extensively every single time. She needs recovery days between sessions.
Severity
4
Oral Sex Issues
Teeth. Always teeth. Jaw fatigue after 2 minutes. Many partners refuse entirely. Others try once and never again. Deepthroat is fantasy. Having to be grateful for any attempt. Feeling like you're choking them.
Severity
5
Anal Is Off the Table
Complete non-starter for 90% of partners. The 10% who try usually tap out immediately. Even with extensive prep, it's often impossible. One of the most common sexual acts you'll likely never experience.
Severity
6
Relationship Insecurity
"Is she only with me for my dick?" The paranoia when she mentions your size to friends. Wondering if you're just a trophy fuck. Previous partners who literally only wanted the size. Never knowing if connection is real.
Severity
7
Public Bulge Problems
Visible in everything. Swim trunks are obscene. Gym shorts show everything. Sitting down creates obvious bulge. Public transport is awkward. Work presentations terrifying. Being called a "creep" for something you can't control.
Severity
8
Toilet Water Contact
Touching toilet water when sitting. Having to hold it while shitting. Public toilets are nightmare fuel. Shallow toilets are unusable. The constant awareness and adjustment.
Severity
9
TSA / Security Searches
The red box directly over your crotch on the body scanner. Every. Single. Time. Getting pulled aside for "additional screening." The awkward pat-down. Having to explain it's not a weapon. The agent's face when they realize. The humiliation. Other passengers staring. Missing flights because of secondary screening. It happening EVERY time you fly.
Severity
10
First Time Fears
Her face when she first sees it. "That's not going in me." Having partners literally walk out. The reputation that follows. Being reduced to just your size. Scaring off potential relationships.
Severity

The Hidden Problems Nobody Discusses

The Underwear Situation

Regular underwear doesn't work. Everything shows or crushes. Pouch underwear is mandatory but expensive ($25+ per pair). Obviously Apparel, WildmanT, Andrew Christian - spending hundreds on underwear that actually fits.

The Blood Flow Issue

Need more blood for erections = getting fully hard takes longer. Losing erections easier because of blood volume needed. Lightheadedness during sex. Partners thinking something's wrong with them when you go soft.

The "Size Queen" Magnet

Attracting partners who ONLY care about size. Being treated like a human dildo. The emptiness of being wanted for one thing. Partners disappointed you have a personality beyond your dick.

The Comparison Complex

Partners comparing you to exes constantly. Being the story they tell forever. "You ruined me for other guys" sounds nice until you realize the pressure. Every future partner being told about you.

Reality Check from r/bigdickproblems

"Having a big dick is like being tall - sounds great until you're hitting your head on everything, nothing fits, and people make weird assumptions about you. Except you can't talk about it without sounding like you're bragging." - Every BDP regular

The Sex Reality

Positions That Don't Work

The Lube Budget

Lube isn't optional, it's mandatory. Every. Single. Time. Quality lube costs money. Going through bottles monthly. The unsexy pause to reapply. Stained sheets. The pharmacy clerk who knows you too well.

The Foreplay Marathon

She needs to be FULLY aroused or it's not happening. 20-30 minutes minimum prep. Fingers first, always. Sometimes foreplay takes so long you lose momentum. Jaw fatigue from going down so long. Your needs coming second always.

"First girlfriend bled our first three times. Thought I was doing something wrong. Second girlfriend needed 3 days recovery between sex. Current girlfriend can only do certain positions. I'm 7.5" x 6" - not even porn huge - and sex is complicated every single time."

- Typical BDP experience

The Relationship Impact

The Incompatibility Issue

Meeting someone perfect but being sexually incompatible. Having to end relationships because sex hurts them. The guilt of knowing you're the problem. Compatible partners being rare. Settling for less chemistry because the sex works.

The Communication Burden

Having "the talk" before every new partner. Explaining you need special condoms. Warning them about potential pain. Killing spontaneity with preparation discussions. Being treated like a freak show.

The Reputation Problem

Word gets around. Being known as "the big dick guy." Friends' girlfriends being weird around you. Guy friends being insecure. Locker room awkwardness. The assumptions about your personality.

The Irony: Society tells guys bigger is better, but past a certain point, it's mostly downsides. You can't talk about it without being accused of humble bragging. Meanwhile you're spending $200/year on special condoms and your girlfriend needs ice packs after sex.

Practical Solutions That Actually Help

For Partner Comfort:

For Condom Issues:

For Daily Life:

The Mental Health Side

What nobody talks about: the psychological impact. The guilt when you hurt partners. The anxiety before new encounters. The frustration of limited sex. The loneliness of not being able to discuss it. The body dysmorphia of being treated like a freak.

Being reduced to a body part. Partners showing you off like a trophy. Friends making everything about your dick. The inability to have normal sexual conversations. The imposter syndrome when you can't perform like porn.

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The Bottom Line

Having a big dick isn't the blessing everyone thinks it is. It's expensive (special condoms, underwear, lube). It's painful (for partners and relationships). It's limiting (positions, acts, partner compatibility). It's isolating (can't discuss without seeming like you're bragging).

The grass isn't greener above 7 inches - it's just a different set of problems that nobody prepared you for. While average guys worry about being too small, you're dealing with actual logistical nightmares that affect every aspect of your sex life.

Remember Your Reality

If you're dealing with these problems, you're in the 1-2% territory. Your issues are real, valid, and deserve discussion without judgment.

"Spent my teens wishing I was bigger. Hit my full size at 20 (8" x 5.75"). Now I'm 30 and would trade 2 inches for a normal sex life. Grass isn't greener, it's just different problems nobody warns you about."

- The BDP reality

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